Exam Stress Management tips for Parents-Series

It's already beginning of the year and exams are fast approaching. Our teens are really working hard to crack the exams. I suppose so:-). Ok Parents.. you must agree with me, for most part they do want to do well but definitely it is a struggle for the entire family to get through these times. So let's see as parents how can we help them ease the stress?

1. Children & teenagers have little faith in their own ability. Sit down with them and challenge them on any negative thoughts they have about their work or talent. Even confident kids sometimes fall prey to these thoughts. Reminding them of the times they worked hard and did well is very empowering.

2. Making revision plans and initiating discussion about the future options and alternatives can be calming. They might not have the maturity to come up with all the options available.

3. Give examples of your stresses and how you struggle to manage them. The feeling that they are not alone can be very calming.

4. Don't force your child to revise and practise. Keep a healthy balance of revision and downtime. They are not adults. They might not study at the same phase as we want them to. Their breaks and distractions could be many compared to us. However being patient and letting them identify their learning styles is important and it starts from middle school. Don't worry if they are already in high school. Slowly they will understand the connection between their effort and results. Once they do this they will automatically put in the required effort.

5. Align your goals and teenager's goals as far as possible. A baseline is important. Don't dream for your child. Let them set the goals and work towards it. Let the choice of career and university be theirs. You can be supportive by letting them achieve their dreams and allowing them to work towards it. It will be very fulfilling for them.

6. Fresh air and exercise is always good. Encourage them to head to the gym.

My next article will focus on how to help the kids who might not be so communicative and approachable.